Break Peacefully!
Unknown
June 22, 2009

Its been awhile since my previous post here. I have nothing much to write about for now. But, i would like to post in here some tips i have gathered regarding relationships. Breaking with someone can be one of the hardest thing to do for some, especially if they seriously love the person. Here it is:

1. Acknowledge that the relationship is really over. Come to terms with your own feelings and make a firm decision to end the relationship.

2. Don't delay the inevitable. Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action.

3. Make sure you're the one who personally delivers the news. Don't give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone.

4. Select a private place to meet with your partner to end the relationship.

5. Find or schedule an appropriate time. Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational. Don't announce your intention to break up during a heated argument or a moment of anger.

6. Show your resolve by being firm, decisive and honest. Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Be tactful, not brutal.

7. Remind your partner that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.

8. Give your partner the closure that he or she needs to accept the breakup; answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends.

9. Stay positive as you make plans to go separate ways.

I hope this last tip will be of great help somehow, for people who still live with bitterness in their hearts and dwell so much on the past. Well, each f us has each own reasons depending on the degree of the hurt it caused us. But, we should also remember past is past. Instead make your life better and make plans to move forward.


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Infidelity and marriage
Unknown
June 3, 2009

Infidelity nowadays is very common among marriages, its a sensitive issue and quite difficult to handle especially for women. I've heard and read stories about infidelity which causes shattered lives and broken marriages...I don't know why infidelity happens-there must be various reasons why it happens to anybody. When this thing happens some people tend to focus on the pain and sometimes neglect their children. Every now and then children are the ones more affected. In today's hectic and advance world it is important to keep marriages fresh and alive. I have read in a magazine about marriage and it says there one ingredient to maintain a happy marriage is to keep dating etiquette...go somewhere, date, as if you are new lovers -make your spouse as your best friend, your confidant and the one person that you can trust. Another is Communication which is very important- tell him your wants, your needs, your feelings, and even your thoughts. If everything else fails seek professional advice. It is better to talk to a proper person or a person you can trust who is open minded because surely they will not add to the fire.

In some cases infidelity can be avoided...according to a marriage counselor --always remember to maintain boundaries to avoid sharing intimate details with friends and co-workers which then leads to emotional intimacy-which brings people closer to one another.

Different reasons, different situations whatever!.. always remember, infidelity violates basic trust among spouses and the wounds normally takes time to heal-- good for you if you regain the trust and sorry for you if not, because in some cases it never re-built. So sad if this things happen and it is indeed a difficult situation that can affect marriages.
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